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the letting go

Over the holidays, I was talking with someone whom I trust a great deal about "letting go". You know, it's the time of year that you reflect on what's happened and look forward to what can be and though I wasn't talking about that particular thing with this person, I thought the conversation was timely.  We were actually talking about the past and how some people feel that to move on you have to "forget" about what's happened in order to move forward peacefully and with a smile. 


But here's the thing about the past, at least for me. Just because I forgive for what's happened in the past or apologized for my own actions in a situation doesn't mean I forget or expect others to forget the instance. My past has made me who I am and though I may move on from people, situations and things, I don't forget anything. To me that's not holding on. To me holding onto pain from the past would mean to continue to be broken, to hold grudges, to move through life with anger. I don't think I do that... and though I may have problems in some relationships, I don't think the issues in those relationships stem from holding onto some form of anger or resentment. I think problems in relationships stem from the inability to change with time. People get stuck and have trouble changing their ways. I think that knowing a problem but the inability to change your actions to make it better cause problems in relationships when both parties have agreed to try to make something work. 

For the record, the conversation was a good one, it was with agreement on both sides and both myself and the person  I was speaking to felt like letting go simply meant forgiving and moving on and that maybe other people had different definitions. It was actually, for me, an eye opening conversation and one I could have only had with someone close to me. Someone I trust. So thanks...

I just thought that it was interesting to hear how differently people can define letting go, moving on and how it can affect a relationship. 

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nicole

Today's Tweets

  • 18:21 L is asleep (early). So I'm getting some in-n-out and then back to bed to relax so I feel well enough for tomorrow's brunch w/ the friends. #
  • 18:25 Ugh... Always such a long line here. twitpic.com/ve5zd #

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Hannahbanana

Green Christmas

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drip

Father Christmas brought everyone what they wanted, but Mother Nature didn't bring us any snow.

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Snowy

A belated Christmas present, but the best one.

Our daughter became engaged to her Scottish partner today. He is a fine young man, and we are very happy for them both. It is three years today since they met in Inverness, Scotland. They came to Toowoomba last April, and plan to make their future home here. We had planned a BBQ for tomorrow night. I wonder if her partner and I will be dancing together like we were at the wedding we attended in Manchester last year. Better not, I suppose. I don't want to make our daughter jealous...

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nicole

Today's Tweets

  • 06:03 Merry Christmas!! #
  • 12:23 Feeling sick on Christmas is no fun. But at least I'm not bedridden. Family is about to arrive. #
  • 17:35 @ycgonzalez it sure seems like it at times. That used to happen to me with one of my exes over and over. #
  • 20:30 If Star Wars had Facebook, statuses might have looked like this . . . bit.ly/7qZeen (via @aplusk) #
  • 20:31 @girloncamera what book? #

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lauowolf

CNN? Does anyone ever proofread your stuff?

Woman knocks down pope at Mass; Christmas celebrations begin

CNN International - ‎1 hour ago‎


In my day we just had eggnog and sang carols.
Kids these days....
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nicole

Today's Tweets

  • 09:47 @amalah I've always wanted to try red, but have been too scared. You are much braver than I am. #

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Hannahbanana

Santa's on his way!

baking :: more painting :: bowling (I won! Okay, one game) :: board games ("Chrononauts" is more complicated than I remembered) :: simple and delicious steak dinner :: Nigella's baby cakes :: Christmas Eve present and pyjama opening :: one too many episodes of The Simpsons :: one too many glasses of wine :: cinnamon rolls for Santa, sleeping pills for the kids.

Happy holidays, one and all!

 

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six-string gypsy

Presents!

Presents!
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Snowy

ICH today

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Information Clearing House Newsletter
News You Won't Find On CNN
December 24,2009
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The Desiderata
 
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
 
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
 
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.
 
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others,
 
even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
 
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexations to the spirit.
 
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter,
 
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
 
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
 
Keep interested in your own career, however humble,
 
it's a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
 
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.
 
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
 
many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
 
Be yourself.
 
Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love;
 
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
 
it is as perennial as the grass.
 
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
 
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
 
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
 
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
 
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
 
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
 
You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars;
 
you have a right to be here.
 
And whether or not it is clear to you,
 
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
 
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be.
 
And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life,
 
keep peace in your soul.
 
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
 
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
 
Max Ehrmann
 
 
"If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another." -  Tenzin Gyatso, The 14th Dalai Lama quotes (Dalai Lama, b.1935)
 
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"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace."  Jimi Hendrix
 
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"If everyone demanded peace instead of another television set, then there'd be peace." -  John Lennon

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